What happened? One minute she’s turning out Blogs like a well oiled machine and then BAM! Nothing! Silence where there used to be laughter, songs, shared experiences, reminiscing, poetry, etc. etc. etc.
Such is the nature of a Writer; the ebb and flow of life sometimes takes us away from the Words and then brings us haltingly back again.
I won’t bore you with the details of my absence from these pages for the last month except to say… Life Happened.
And when you are 60+ (as many of you fellow Boomers can attest to) it can be challenging.
No one prepares you to be a Boomer …there is no class you can take…(sorry AARP)…it just seems you wake up one day and nature has started taking its course. Stiff gray hairs were there used to be none, creaks and groans from your favorite poses, memory lapses and this sudden invisibleness from the younger generation. Your mind and body seem to literally start playing tricks on you….daily.
A recent editorial by a 60+ writer said that Boomers were becoming the object of disdain by the Millennials. Our propensity for living longer, enjoying better health, and remaining in jobs past retirement age has gotten their collective man buns in a knot.
Finances and absence of a spouse (death, divorce, younger women) often catapult many female Boomers back into the workforce. And our dreams of sleeping till noon, reading that stack of long ago purchased books, and traveling to exotic places are put on hold…much to our dismay.
Like many other women, my plans for life after retirement were derailed, and during countless nights of insomnia ladened sleep (despite lavender candles/ room spray/body oil/even lavender sprigs tucked in my pillow… where his head used to lay) I lie awake at the insomniac hour thinking about what it really means to be a single woman in her 60s in this country.
My move last year from a Senior community – for Active 55 plus- back to an unsubsidized, renovated, urban apartment (complete with a great view of the water and neighbors of all ages, many of them dog owners and pot smokers), has given me a renewed perspective. Since I was beginning to believe that a building full of people of the same age (over 55) living together can only lead to depression, isolation, and early demise.
Of course, remaining in the real world is expensive as any person living on a fixed income can attest to, and has led many boomers to delay retirement or return to the 9 to 5.
For many, work is also a boon to stave off boredom and early dementia. And based on the lack of skills-especially people skills- present in many of the I-was-raised-by-a- computer generation is frankly, a godsend for many businesses.
Boomers are generally calm under pressure, great problem solvers and have strong work ethics…all things Millennials could learn from.
And while many Boomers may lack advanced tech skills for some positions, remember we were the first generation of Mac and PC users and can easily be trained to work with complex software now found in many workplaces.
Boomers do have to contend with other challenges as well. Health issues, ours and family members, often become an unwanted reality as cancer, alzheimer and other diseases take residence in our domain.
Changing relationships with parents/siblings/peers/significant others seem to be a hallmark of becoming a Boomer.
Prayer, therapy, and bottles of 19 Crimes can help to lessen these stressors.
So take heart Boomers and lighten the f*** up!